The Origins of Anger

Posted on 12/12/14

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Lingering anger arises out of domestic violence. Children feel it and adults actually nurture it. Here we’re going to look at anger’s origins in domestic violence, and explore how an adult can recognize the anger for what it is and

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Why a Violent Childhood Can Make You Feel Guilty

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Guilt can seem like a simple word. Yet it speaks to a complex family of emotions. These include embarrassment, a sense of culpability, a feeling you should have been able to stop it, shame because there is something inherently wrong

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Transforming Resentment into Compassion

Posted on 12/4/14

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We learn 10 pervading lies while growing up with domestic violence. I discuss each one in my book Invincible. In this blog post, however, I want to particularly highlight the lie of resentment. This is a poisonous emotion that makes

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Why Adults Remain Silent about Domestic Violence

Posted on 11/28/14

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As we face society’s relative silence around children living with domestic violence and the adults who grew up with it in the past, it helps to also consider why adults might choose to remain silent about any domestic violence they

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Leaders and Celebrities Who Grew Up With Domestic Violence

Posted on 11/21/14

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Did you know that some of the most accomplished and celebrated people grew up living with domestic violence? As we begin to look at the unsung gifts of adversity, I want to acknowledge those in the spotlight who have overcome

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Do You Feel Alone After a Childhood of Domestic Violence?

Posted on 11/18/14

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  Life after a childhood of domestic violence can feel very lonely. Such children learn early on that it can be safer to isolate themselves, plus they develop the belief that they cannot trust others – and so they keep

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Why Children Stay Silent About Domestic Violence

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Why children stay silent about domestic violence

Those who have never experienced domestic violence may sometimes question why a child would stay silent when living in such a home. Children don’t usually talk about it, though. They are afraid they may get into trouble. Or they fear

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Why We Need Some Name Calling Right about Now

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Name-calling is often a sign of bullying. When growing up with domestic violence, however, it is the lack of naming that is damaging. What if defining that complex experience could actually help you heal it? For example, as society came

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Believing the Lie That It’s Safer to Be Alone

Posted on 11/17/14

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Children who grow up with domestic violence often learn the lie that it’s safer to be alone. They learn that when you let others into your heart or your home, that they can hurt you if they want to. Such

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