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Why Am I Always Waiting for Something Bad to Happen?
<i>Hypervigilance, Anxiety, and Growing Up With Domestic Violence</i> <b>By the CDV Team</b> <em>Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of fear that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of passion that replaces it. CDV.org has written about <a...
Why Do I Push Away the People Closest to Me?
Childhood Domestic Violence and the Fear of Love By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of being unloved that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of being loving that replaces it. CDV.org has written about discovering love after childhood domestic violence before; this post goes deeper into why it feels so hard. Things are going well. That's the problem....
Why Do I Feel So Alone Even When I’m Surrounded by People?
Childhood Domestic Violence and the Lie of Isolation By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of aloneness that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of being guided that replaces it. You're at a dinner table with people who care about you. The conversation is warm. Someone laughs. Someone refills your glass. And yet you're feeling alone, even with all these...
Why Do Little Things Make Me Spiral?
The Link Between Childhood Domestic Violence and Emotional Overwhelm By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of sadness that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of gratitude that replaces it. CDV.org has written about finding gratitude after childhood domestic violence before; this post looks at why sadness takes hold in the first place. A friend cancels...
Why Do I Get So Angry Over Small Things?
Understanding Anger When You Grew Up With Domestic Violence By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of anger that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of trust that replaces it. CDV.org has written about transforming the anger you learn from growing up with domestic violence before; this post looks at where it comes from and why it moves so fast. Why do you...
Why Am I So Bitter About My Childhood?
Understanding Resentment When You Grew Up With Domestic Violence By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of resentment that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of compassion that replaces it. CDV.org has written about moving from resentment to compassion before; this post looks at what resentment is actually made of. If you carry resentment toward your...
Why Does Everything Feel So Overwhelming?
Childhood Domestic Violence and the Weight of Hopelessness By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of hopelessness that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of accomplishment that replaces it. Why does everything feel so overwhelming? Not one specific thing. Everything. The emails. The decisions. The dishes. The idea of making a plan for next week when you can...
Why Am I So Afraid of Being Judged?
Childhood Domestic Violence and the Fear of Being Seen By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of self-consciousness that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of attractiveness that replaces it. Why are you so afraid of what people think of you? You rehearse conversations before you have them. You edit texts three times before sending them. You walk into a...
Why Do I Never Feel Good Enough?
The Connection Between Childhood Domestic Violence and Self-Worth By the CDV Team Part of the 10 Lies Series, exploring the lie of worthlessness that childhood domestic violence teaches, and the truth of confidence that replaces it. You got the promotion. You should feel proud. Instead, you're counting the days until they realize they made a mistake. Someone tells you they love your work and...
Witnessing Domestic Violence as a Child Has a Name
Here’s Why Knowing It Matters. Team CDV You know the feeling, even if you’ve never described it out loud. A voice getting louder in the next room. Your whole body going still. Listening. Waiting. Hoping it would stop. And then the quiet afterward that wasn’t really quiet at all. If you grew up in a home where a parent was hurt or threatened, you learned things that no child should have to learn....