Why CDV Creates Deep Feelings of Worthlessness
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Everyone Deals with Low Self-Esteem Sometimes Everyone will, at some point, suffer from bouts of low self-esteem. We feel it now and then as we make our way through school, relationships, and careers. Even people who did not...
Time to Break Free of the Lie Learned Growing Up with CDV that You’re Fearful
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Domestic Violence Teaches Us to Be Fearful For a child who grows up experiencing adversities in childhood, fear often dominates that young person’s view of the world—a worldview that is often carried forward into...
From Hopelessness to Control: Guiding Yourself After Childhood Domestic Violence
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Domestic Violence Causes Feelings of Hopelessness Growing up with childhood domestic violence makes us contend with hopelessness. Hopelessness can make us feel aimless and powerless in an overwhelming world. This...
Successful, Well Adjusted…and Still Alone After CDV?
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Domestic Violence Can Make Us Feel Alone Sometimes the loneliest people are the ones you would never suspect are lonely. How could someone surrounded by friends, active in social activities, and successful in...
A Mentor’s Advice: Ditch Your Labels
By Denise Restauri Labels Undermine Our Identities and Success Meg Columbia-Walsh, a CDV survivor, tells Forbes why she doesn't like labels, even those that denote success, such as entrepreneur or CEO. Walsh believes that these labels are just a burden, a drag on...
The Underlying Essence of ANGER You Must Know as a Former Child of Domestic Violence
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE The Anger that Comes from Childhood Domestic Violence Serves a Purpose ANGER is often a dominant emotion for adults who grew up experiencing adversity in their childhood home. Much of the work we’ve done has been to define that...
You Can Unlearn the SADNESS You Learned Growing Up in the Grip of Domestic Violence
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Sadness is a Dominant Emotion for Those of Us Who Grew Up with Childhood Domestic Violence People often imagine Anger to be one of the most typical responses to growing up with adversity in one’s childhood home. But SADNESS is...
The Science Behind the Unique Capacity for Compassion You Inherited Growing Up with Domestic Violence
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Domestic Violence Has Taught You Compassion and Empathy As I mentioned in my book INVINCIBLE, growing up facing adversity in childhood gives you an exceptional ability to perceive and empathize with what others are...
Four Points of TRUTH about the GUILTY LIE That Growing Up with CDV Teaches
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Adversity Teaches Us to Feel Guilt at Inappropriate Times When you grow up experiencing adversity in childhood, there are a variety of related impacts. GUILT is a common LIE you learn to believe. But it loses its...
Your Belief That No One Has or Will Ever Love You Isn’t True…and Never Was
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Childhood Domestic Violence Teaches Us the Lies that We're Unloved and Unlovable When you grow up experiencing childhood adversity, and particularly Childhood Domestic Violence (CDV), you often learn the LIE that you’re...