How Do We Unlearn the Lies Learned in Childhood?
Every day we have opportunities to unlearn lies we may have learned. Many of the lies that we believe about ourselves were seeded in childhood. Especially if you grew up in violent home. A home in which the violence could have been physical or nonphysical. Those...
The Unsung Gifts of Adversity
No one wishes to have had a difficult or painful childhood. Such adversity scars people for life. Yet if you grew up living with domestic violence, you were forced to develop skills, awareness and abilities that can set you up for immense success now and into your...
What Unknown Special Skill Do Those who Experience Childhood Domestic Violence Have Access To?
“I understand that I cannot control the thoughts and actions of others. But I can exercise the ultimate control – control over the meaning of any situation – control over myself. When I am in control of my thoughts and my feelings and my actions, nothing is more...
What Is the One Truth You Must Know?
“The worst guilt to accept is an undeserved guilt.” –Ayn Rand, Atlas ShruggedIf you grew up living with domestic violence, it is highly likely that you carry with you a false sense of GUILT – a false sense of shame. You believe that you are somehow guilty or that you...
Compassion is a Gift You Earned if You Grew Up Living with Domestic Violence
Only those who have suffered can truly understand what suffering feels like. If you grew up in a home with domestic violence, you understand suffering. Because you endured this pain and fear as a child, you have a unique gift: an enormous capacity for compassion. You...
A 3 Simple Question Test to Determine If You Grew Up Living with Domestic Violence
Did you grow up in a home living with domestic violence? That question doesn't get asked very often, but we must ask it of ourselves and of those we care about. Because if the answer is yes, you should know that it has an impact on a life. 1. Did your parents or...
Growing Up with Domestic Violence Makes You Stronger
When I tell people that I grew up in a home where there was severe domestic violence, I get a few different reactions. For some, it’s pity – “Oh. poor you. How did you ever survive that?” For others, it’s disbelief – “But how could you have grown up like that? You’re...
Ordinary Magic: Resilience Processes in Development
By Ann MastenAnn Masten's study of resilience in development reveals surprising conclusions on the "ordinariness of resilience" - "Resilience does not come from rare and special qualities, but from the everyday magic of ordinary, normative human resources in the...
4 Things I Learned About Childhood Adversity at a High Security Prison
This April, I was inside a high security prison. The plan was to talk to the men there about the work CDV does and to educate them on the connection between childhood adversities and the potential impact. While I believe I educated them, they also educated me. Here is...
Distinguished ACE Study Researcher Joins Chapter Board of Pioneering Nonprofit Focused on Least Known Childhood Adversity – Childhood Domestic Violence (CDV)
Dr. Shanta Dube’s Aggregate Research Experience and Knowledge on the Profound Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Will Help Optimize Interventions & Positive Outcomes Among Those Exposed to Childhood Domestic Violence (CDV) in Metro Atlanta ATLANTA,...