Uncovering the LIES & Understanding the TRUTHS


CDV often encodes negative beliefs 

Growing up with domestic violence can teach people to believe certain things about themselves and the world that are not true. These LIES, if unchallenged, can last into adulthood and negatively impact some or all key areas of their life, from physical and mental health to behaviors and relationships. These negative beliefs can hold one back in life and keep them from reaching their potential or living the life they were meant to lead. The impact can be profound and lifelong.

Understanding the Truths

For every LIE there is a corresponding TRUTH. Embracing and applying these TRUTHS will provide you with new insights. As you become aware, understand and share, the gifts that the experience left behind will begin to reveal themselves.

Click each Lie or Truth to learn more. They are each extensively covered in Invincible.














GUILTY, because it was their fault – they should have stopped it.

FREE from the illusion of guilt, because a child is never responsible for the actions of an adult.

RESENTFUL, bitter, having no true compassion for another.

COMPASSIONATE for others and self, because they know what real hurt feels like.

SAD, hurt, often feeling a sense of loss.

GRATEFUL, because they focus on what they have and what they’ve gained, not what they’ve lost.

ALONE, truly not connected to others.

TRUSTING, because as they assume that another’s intent is positive, they will never be alone.

ANGRY, prone to violence and in a frequent state of frustration.

PASSIONATE, as they take control of the energy from anger and point it towards their passion.

HOPELESS, because often, life has no purpose and things don’t work out.

GUIDED, because they have purpose now.

WORTHLESS, unimportant, not good enough, a failure.

ACCOMPLISHED, because as they realize what they had to overcome as a child, few other obstacles compare.

FEARFUL, uncertain, timid, lacking true confidence inside.

CONFIDENT, because they know what real fear feels like, and this gives them confidence to face anything.

SELF-CONSCIOUS, unattractive, not good enough for another.

ATTRACTIVE, because as they realize the TRUTHS, they feel esteem for self and are more attractive to others.

UNLOVED, not able to really love or be loved.

LOVED, because making others feel cared for, appreciated and important makes them feel the same.

Where to start if you need help

There are many ways for you to partner with us and help bring awareness to CDV and make an impact.

Ways to Help