The LIES & The TRUTHS
CDV often encodes negative beliefs
Growing up with domestic violence can teach people to believe things about themselves and the world that are not true. These LIES, if unchallenged, can last into adulthood and negatively impact key areas of their life. These negative beliefs can hold one back in life and keep them from reaching their potential. The impact can be profound and lifelong.
Understanding the Truths
For every LIE there is a corresponding TRUTH. Embracing and applying these TRUTHS will provide you with new insights.
Click each Lie or Truth to learn more. They are each extensively covered in Invincible.
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THE LIE |
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GUILTY, because it was their fault – they should have stopped it. |
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THE TRUTH |
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FREE from the illusion of guilt, because a child is never responsible for the actions of an adult. |
THE LIE |
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RESENTFUL, bitter, having no true compassion for another. |
THE TRUTH |
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COMPASSIONATE for others and self, because they know what real hurt feels like. |
THE LIE |
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SAD, hurt, often feeling a sense of loss. |
THE TRUTH |
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GRATEFUL, because they focus on what they have and what they’ve gained, not what they’ve lost. |
THE LIE |
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ALONE, truly not connected to others. |
THE TRUTH |
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TRUSTING, because as they assume that another’s intent is positive, they will never be alone. |
THE LIE |
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ANGRY, prone to violence and in a frequent state of frustration. |
THE TRUTH |
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PASSIONATE, as they take control of the energy from anger and point it towards their passion. |
THE LIE |
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HOPELESS, because often, life has no purpose and things don’t work out. |
THE TRUTH |
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GUIDED, because they have purpose now. |
THE LIE |
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WORTHLESS, unimportant, not good enough, a failure. |
THE TRUTH |
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ACCOMPLISHED, because as they realize what they had to overcome as a child, few other obstacles compare. |
THE LIE |
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FEARFUL, uncertain, timid, lacking true confidence inside. |
THE TRUTH |
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CONFIDENT, because they know what real fear feels like, and this gives them confidence to face anything. |
THE LIE |
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SELF-CONSCIOUS, unattractive, not good enough for another. |
THE TRUTH |
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ATTRACTIVE, because as they realize the TRUTHS, they feel esteem for self and are more attractive to others. |
THE LIE |
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UNLOVED, not able to really love or be loved. |
THE TRUTH |
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LOVED, because making others feel cared for, appreciated and important makes them feel the same. |
THE LIE |
THE TRUTH |
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GUILTY, because it was their fault – they should have stopped it. |
FREE from the illusion of guilt, because a child is never responsible for the actions of an adult. |
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RESENTFUL, bitter, having no true compassion for another. |
COMPASSIONATE for others and self, because they know what real hurt feels like. |
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SAD, hurt, often feeling a sense of loss. |
GRATEFUL, because they focus on what they have and what they’ve gained, not what they’ve lost. |
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ALONE, truly not connected to others. |
TRUSTING, because as they assume that another’s intent is positive, they will never be alone. |
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ANGRY, prone to violence and in a frequent state of frustration. |
PASSIONATE, as they take control of the energy from anger and point it towards their passion. |
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HOPELESS, because often, life has no purpose and things don’t work out. |
GUIDED, because they have purpose now. |
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WORTHLESS, unimportant, not good enough, a failure. |
ACCOMPLISHED, because as they realize what they had to overcome as a child, few other obstacles compare. |
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FEARFUL, uncertain, timid, lacking true confidence inside. |
CONFIDENT, because they know what real fear feels like, and this gives them confidence to face anything. |
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SELF-CONSCIOUS, unattractive, not good enough for another. |
ATTRACTIVE, because as they realize the TRUTHS, they feel esteem for self and are more attractive to others. |
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UNLOVED, not able to really love or be loved. |
LOVED, because making others feel cared for, appreciated and important makes them feel the same. |
