Last Updated on August 22, 2016 by Cindy Bekesi
Valentine’s Day is a holiday when we show our love for others and receive their love in return. But, if you grew up experiencing adversity in your childhood home, such as Childhood Domestic Violence, you may have felt the opposite – UNLOVED and unlovable. You may still find it difficult to express your love towards others. Even towards those you care about most.
We can turn the hollowness of feeling unloved into the strength of showing others the love we may never have felt as children.
Now, as in adulthood, you no longer have to live with the LIE of being UNLOVED. You can reclaim the love you never felt you had in childhood. The secret weapon embedded in the LIE is that you can turn the hollowness of feeling unloved into the strength of showing others the love you may never have felt as a child.
Nobody should ever have to go through that alone again
Today, you have a fundamental choice to make between two statements: “I experienced an injustice when I was young and because of that, the rest of the world should suffer,” or “I experienced an injustice when I was young and nobody should ever have to go through that alone again.”
By sharing the truths we now know
How do you begin to make up for all the love you may have lacked as a child? By embracing and sharing the TRUTHS you now know with others. By making others feel the way you want to feel deep inside – loved and cherished, free, compassionate, grateful, trusting, passionate, guided, accomplished, confident, and attractive. By practicing empathy, and putting yourself in the shoes of others, by building your sense of compassion, understanding the feelings of others, and trying to ease the suffering of others, you get closer to the love you missed out on as a child.
The response you get, in turn, will help reinforce the sense that you are LOVED.
Applaud someone’s efforts instead of being judgmental. Be courteous instead of impatient. Replace criticism with heartfelt compliments. The response you will get, in turn, will help reinforce the sense that you are LOVED.
We receive love by giving it away, and we create love by taking the action that supports us in our ability to create it. When you give love to others, you will often be loved in return.
Please share in the comments below how you choose to give and receive love, beginning today. Thank you for sharing.
A detailed overview of the UNLOVABLE lie can be found in CHAPTER 11 (“Unloved to Loving”) of INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set You Free.