By CDV Independence and Freedom Often Overlap Some children learn fierce independence growing up with domestic violence. But being independent is not the same as being free from the Lies learned in that home. They learn at an Early Age to Rely Exclusively on...

Many who Experienced Childhood Domestic Violence Feel They Can't Open Up to Others No one would fault a child of domestic violence for believing that opening up to others can be dangerous. The people he should have been able to trust most – his parents or guardians –...

By CDV Growing Up with Domestic Violence Teaches Us to Resent If you grew up with domestic violence, you learned several lies that taught you to feel resentment and to depend on that feeling for a sense of power or control. Yet, resentment only shackles us to reliving...

By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Can Make Us Feel Guilty Guilt can seem like a simple word. Yet it speaks to a complex family of emotions. These include embarrassment, a sense of culpability, a feeling you should have been able to stop it, shame because there is...

By CDV Our Past Traumas Can Follow Us Anger and domestic violence are an unfortunate pairing, but all too common. You don't have to live with the past. You don't have to live in anger. You don't have to live with the damage of domestic violence. You can know, accept,...

By CDV "Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.” – Friedrich Nietzsche What is Resentment? Resentment seems like an obvious emotion, but to fully understand it, we must look at how it’s connected to the other lies we learned as...

By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Leads to a Lingering Anger Lingering anger arises out of domestic violence. Children feel it, and adults actually nurture it. Here we’re going to look at anger’s origins in domestic violence, and explore how an adult can recognize...