Independence vs Freedom from the LIES of CDV
By CDVSome children learn fierce independence growing up with domestic violence. But being independent is not the same as being free from the Lies learned in that home.They learn at an early age to rely exclusively on themselves and no one else Often stuck in a...
The High Cost of Isolation & Distrust
No one would fault a child of domestic violence for believing that opening up to others can be dangerous. The people he should have been able to trust most – his parents or guardians – were a source of stress, fear and possibly harm. There is, however, a high cost to...
From the Lie of Resentment to the Truth of Compassion
By CDVIf you grew up with domestic violence, you learned several lies that taught you to feel resentment and to depend on that feeling for a sense of power or control. Yet resentment only shackles us to reliving our past hurts, and gives us zero power or control.Let’s...
Is Your Past Still Affecting You Today?
By CDVAnger and domestic violence are an unfortunate pairing, but all-too common. You don't have to live with the past. You don't have to live in anger. You don't have to live with the damage of domestic violence. You can know, accept, change and grow. I will show you...
This Holiday, Give the Gift of a New Beginning to Someone Who Grew Up with Childhood Domestic Violence
By CDVDid you grow up living with domestic violence or care about someone who did? This holiday season, consider giving the gift of a new beginning to someone who grew up living with domestic violence.The book INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up with Domestic...
The Surprising Truth about Resentment
By CDV"Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.” – Friedrich NietzscheResentment seems like an obvious emotion, but to fully understand it, we must look at how it’s connected to the other lies we learned as children. Because for...
A List of Recent Successes Furthers Awareness of Childhood Domestic Violence and Help for Those Impacted
By CDVWe at CDV are sending you warm thoughts of thanks, in reflection on the past few months.We are so grateful for the continued support from our social media followers, volunteers and participants. Your success stories are inspiring and your struggles are honest...
The Origins of Anger
By CDVLingering anger arises out of domestic violence. Children feel it and adults actually nurture it. Here we’re going to look at anger’s origins in domestic violence, and explore how an adult can recognize the anger for what it is and learn to channel it into...
The Counterintuitive Choice That Heals Aloneness
By CDVHave you ever started to forge a connection with someone, and started to open up, only to have one or both of you shut down to the connection?As I shared in my previous post, this happened with me and my wife. After tentatively opening up to her, and feeling...
The Most Effective Way a Child Can Motivate Parents to Stop Engaging in Domestic Violence
By CDVDid you know that when children speak up about domestic violence, their parents are more likely to consider stopping their violent behavior? Studies have shown that simply knowing the traumatic effects of violence on children creates a strong motivation for...