Sadness After Childhood Domestic Violence: What to Know
By Brian F. Martin, Author of INVINCIBLE Sadness is Devastating, but the Ways We Cope with it Can Harm Us As devastating as sadness can feel, so many people cannot even begin to touch or connect with it at times, much less begin overcoming it. A defensive numbness...
How Resentment Grows from Childhood Domestic Violence—and What You Can Do
By Brian F. Martin, What Is Resentment and Why It Follows CDV Resentment is a deep, lingering anger that often hides under frustration, irritability, or detachment. For many who grew up with childhood domestic violence (CDV), resentment isn’t just about what happened;...
What’s New at CDV
FREE Book Distribution Campaign Reaches 14,000+ Locations, Significant Social Reach We want to thank you for your loyalty, commitment to the movement, and support of our work. As the organization makes exciting strides forward, we still need you, our faithful...
Growing Up With a Violent Mother
By Brian F. Martin You Can Heal and Thrive in Your Life No Matter What It Was Like The guilt and shame we carry after experiencing adversities in childhood can have numerous layers. To help you begin to unravel those layers, I'd like to share with you the...
Independence vs Freedom from the LIES of CDV
By CDV What Independence Means After CDV For many who grew up with Childhood Domestic Violence, independence becomes a survival strategy. It often means self-reliance, emotional distance, and refusing to depend on anyone else. After years of unpredictability and unmet...
Understanding the High Cost of Isolation and Distrust After CDV
How CDV Fosters Isolation and Distrust Children who grow up in homes with domestic violence often learn that connection isn’t safe. When caregivers hurt each other or fail to protect the child emotionally, the message becomes clear: don’t trust, don’t rely, don’t let...
From the Lie of Resentment to the Truth of Compassion
By CDV Growing Up with Domestic Violence Teaches Us to Resent If you grew up with domestic violence, you learned several lies that taught you to feel resentment and to depend on that feeling for a sense of power or control. Yet, resentment only shackles us to reliving...
Why Growing Up With Domestic Violence Can Lead to Guilt
By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Can Make Us Feel Guilty Guilt can seem like a simple word. Yet, it speaks to a complex family of emotions. These include embarrassment, a sense of culpability, a feeling you should have been able to stop it, shame because there is...
Is Your Past Still Affecting You Today?
By CDV Our Past Traumas Can Follow Us Anger and domestic violence are an unfortunate pairing, but all too common. You don't have to live with the past. You don't have to live in anger. You don't have to live with the damage of domestic violence. You can know, accept,...
This Holiday, Give the Gift of a New Beginning to Someone Who Grew Up with Childhood Domestic Violence
By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Doesn't Have to Follow You Forever Did you grow up living with domestic violence or care about someone who did? This holiday season, consider giving the gift of a new beginning to someone who grew up living with domestic violence....