The Surprising Truth about Resentment
By CDV "Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.” – Friedrich Nietzsche What is Resentment? Resentment seems like an obvious emotion, but to fully understand it, we must look at how it’s connected to the other lies we learned as...
A List of Recent Successes Furthers Awareness of Childhood Domestic Violence and Help for Those Impacted
By CDV Thank You for Making INVINCIBLE a Success We at CDV are sending you warm thoughts of thanks, in reflection on the past few months. We are so grateful for the continued support from our social media followers, volunteers, and participants. Your success stories...
The Origins of Anger
By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Leads to a Lingering Anger Lingering anger arises out of domestic violence. Children feel it, and adults actually nurture it. Here we’re going to look at anger’s origins in domestic violence, and explore how an adult can recognize...
The Counterintuitive Choice That Heals Aloneness
By CDV Have You Ever Felt a New Connection Fall Apart? Have you ever started to forge a connection with someone, only to have one or both of you shut down the connection as you began to open up? As I mentioned in my previous post, this happened to my wife and me....
The Most Effective Way a Child Can Motivate Parents to Stop Engaging in Domestic Violence
By CDV Children Can Make a Difference in Their Parents' Abusive Relationship Did you know that when children speak up about domestic violence, their parents are more likely to consider stopping their violent behavior? Studies have shown that simply knowing the...
Transforming Resentment into Compassion
By CDV Childhood Domestic Violence Teaches Us Lessons We Don't Need to Live With We learn 10 pervading lies while growing up with domestic violence. I discuss each one in my book Invincible. In this blog post, however, I want to particularly highlight the lie of...
Why Adults Remain Silent about Domestic Violence
By CDV Why is Childhood Domestic Violence so Unknown? As we face society’s relative silence around children living with domestic violence and the adults who grew up with it in the past, it helps to also consider why adults might choose to remain silent about any...
Leaders and Celebrities Who Grew Up With Domestic Violence
Childhood Domestic Violence Doesn't Have to Limit Your Success Did you know that some of the most accomplished and celebrated people grew up living with domestic violence? The stories of well-known figures who overcame childhoods marked by domestic violence matter,...
Do You Feel Alone After a Childhood of Domestic Violence?
Childhood Domestic Violence Can Make Us Feel Alone, Even When We're Surrounded Life after a childhood of domestic violence can feel very lonely. Such children learn early on that it can be safer to isolate themselves; they also develop the belief that they cannot...
Why We Need Some Name Calling Right about Now
Childhood Domestic Violence is the Unknown Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Name-calling is often a sign of bullying. When growing up with domestic violence, however, it is the lack of naming that is damaging. What if defining that complex experience could actually...