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3 Common LIES Adults Believe When They Experienced CDV-Childhood Domestic Violence
Did You Or Someone You Care About Grow Up Living With Domestic Violence? If you did, you experienced childhood domestic violence, or CDV. You may also know someone who did. By definition, from a childhood standpoint, domestic violence is violence between parents or violence towards a parent. Violence can be physical or non-physical. CDV negatively impacts the development of the brain and the...
I Experienced Childhood Domestic Violence, CDV and Went From Feeling Guilty to Free
Childhood Domestic Violence Teaches Us the Lie of Guilt Children think emotionally, not rationally. When you were exposed to domestic violence as a child, your brain drew the wrong conclusions: “I couldn’t stop it, but I should have.” “I was there, so it must have been my fault. It happened because of me.” This creates a tremendous sense of guilt, and the burden of carrying it weighs you down....
CDV PROFILES: FORMER CHILDREN, FUTURE CHAMPIONS
In the Spotlight – Caroline Abbott Community Advocate Author, blogger www.carolineabbott.com Caroline Abbott Found Success after Living through Childhood Domestic Violence Caroline Abbott is a former child of domestic violence who is now a self-published writer, blogger, and community advocate, working to support and empower others who are impacted. She is a passionate supporter of CDV’s work...
Did you grow up living with domestic violence?
We Can Find Others Who Grew Up with Domestic Violence Anywhere Last week, I was hosting a dinner party at a restaurant. As we were getting settled at the table, I saw the server and stood up to introduce myself. My mother was a waitress for her entire life, and I worked as a busser and waiter for six years, so I think that, in part, my past motivates me to connect with people who work in...
Savior One Night, Target the Next – Growing Up With Domestic Violence and Child Abuse
Half of the Children who Grew Up in a Home with Domestic Violence Experienced Physical Child Abuse According to research, if you grow up living with domestic violence, there is a 50% chance you also experienced physical child abuse. Sometimes Nothing is Ever Enough How confusing it is to one night be a savior, in that you may try to stop the violence between your parents…And then the next night,...
Resiliency after Childhood Domestic Violence – Make It Count
Childhood Domestic Violence Doesn't Have to Define Our Lives Growing up with childhood domestic violence teaches us to believe a set of LIES about ourselves. These lies tell us we’re worthless, fearful, angry, alone, guilty, sad, hopeless, resentful, unattractive, and unloved. Though it isn’t difficult to understand what prompted these false beliefs and why we feel this way, they do not have to...
Unlearn the Resentment LIE Learned as a Child of Domestic Violence – Get Closer to Your True Potential!
"Resentment is the poison you drink hoping to hurt your enemy." –Nelson Mandela The Pain of Our Parents Fighting in Childhood Can Follow Us into Adulthood Holding on to the injustice done to you as a child can cause you even more pain today, as resentment leads to emotional paralysis. Remember, forgiving is NOT excusing or forgetting. And it’s not done to appease others or to reward the person...
Can Children of Domestic Violence Hope for Healthy, Loving Relationships as Adults?
The answer is absolutely! Growing Up in a Violent Home Skews Your Sense of a Healthy Relationship Growing up in a home with domestic violence, one's perception of a healthy, functional relationship becomes incredibly skewed. Instead of seeing adults who are loving towards one another, respect each other’s needs and boundaries, and work together to resolve problems and differences, these children...
Service to Others: A Path to Healing & Personal Growth for Children of Domestic Violence
“By channeling our energy towards something bigger than ourselves, we discover our own strength, and our energy comes back to us." (from chapter 3 of my upcoming book). Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself is to Help Someone Else By transforming your negative energy from childhood into positive action on behalf of others, you will achieve personal growth and uncover the true inner...
5 million children are impacted in the US by Childhood Domestic Violence. Yet, why is nobody talking about?
Experiencing Domestic Violence in Childhood is All Too Common, but Is Still the Unknown ACE 5 million children in the US alone grow up living in homes with violence every year. 5 million children all have something in common that defines their lives for years to come - they're children of domestic violence. How is it that there is currently less than 10% awareness among the general population...